Some divorces can take longer to finalize than others. If a couple is arguing over the division of property, child support payments, or other issues, it could take months or even years to reach a settlement. Many people who are involved in one of these dragged out divorces begin online dating so they can ease back into single life at their own pace. But, is it appropriate to start online dating during divorce proceedings?
Most divorce attorneys advise their clients to hold off on dating until their divorce has been finalized. However, there is nothing that legally prevents people who are going through a divorce from dating. If you join an online dating service before your divorce has been finalized, here are some do’s and don’ts to keep in mind:
Do: Keep it Private
Keep the details of your romantic life private instead of flaunting a new relationship in front of your ex. Showing off a new relationship—or even mentioning the fact that you are dating—could upset your ex. It is hard to negotiate with an angry or emotional ex, which means it could be more challenging to reach a divorce settlement if he finds out that you’re dating.
Don’t: Lie About Income
Some online dating websites ask their members to provide their income since potential partners may want to know this information. If you choose to share your income on one of these websites, be sure to tell the truth. Why? Let’s say your income is actually $100,000 per year, but your online dating profile says it is $250,000 per year. Your ex—or your ex’s attorney—could stumble upon this profile before the divorce is finalized. If the income listed on your profile does not match the information you’ve provided in court, this could be a major problem. Your ex may demand more child support or spousal support based on the inflated figure on your dating profile. To avoid this problem, it’s best to be honest.
Do: Choose Dates Wisely
Everyone should be careful when online dating—especially parents who are going through a divorce. If you start seeing someone with an unsavory reputation, this could be used against you in court. For instance, if a new boyfriend has a history of domestic violence, the court may take this into consideration when determining who should be awarded custody.
Before meeting a date in person, use the information from their profile to do a little background research. If there is anything questionable in his past, it may be best to move on to someone else.
If you are filing for divorce, seek legal representation from the divorce attorneys at Adams Family Law. We will stand by your side throughout the entire divorce process and protect your best interests every step of the way. To schedule a consultation, call 513-929-9333 or email Steven@adamsfamilylaw.com.