Being engaged is supposed to be one of the most romantic and memorable times of your life. But, some people find it hard to celebrate their engagement after learning their fiancé wants a prenuptial agreement.
Prenuptial agreements are becoming increasingly popular. In fact, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) revealed that nearly three-quarters of divorce attorneys have reported an increase in clients who are interested in prenuptial agreements over the last five years. What should you do if your fiancé asks for a prenup? Follow these tips:
Don’t Make Assumptions
Some people think that being asked to sign a prenuptial agreement is an insult. But, you should never assume that your fiancé is asking for a prenuptial agreement because he thinks you are after his money. Instead of jumping to these conclusions, ask your fiancé why he thinks getting a prenuptial agreement is a good idea. He may want an agreement to ensure his kids are always provided for or his family heirlooms are protected. Learning why he wants a prenuptial agreement may make you more comfortable with the idea of signing one.
Make A List
Your fiancé may be the one who initiated the conversation, but he shouldn’t be the only one who gets to have a say in the terms of the agreement. Start making a list of terms that you would like to see included in the agreement. For example, if your fiancé is the breadwinner, it may be wise to include a term that states you will be awarded spousal support in the event of a divorce. Don’t ask your fiancé for input on this list—make it on your own so you feel free to write exactly what you want.
Hire An Attorney
You and your fiancé will each need an attorney to represent you during the process of finalizing a prenuptial agreement. Be honest with your attorney about what you expect to get out of the prenuptial agreement so he knows what is important to you. Then, allow the attorneys to negotiate with each other and hammer out the final details of the agreement.
Try to avoid talking about the status of the prenuptial agreement with your fiancé. For instance, don’t ask your fiancé why his attorney is so hesitant to include a term about spousal support in the final agreement. Leave the arguing to the attorneys and focus solely on your future together so the prenuptial agreement doesn’t impact your relationship.
Has your fiancé asked for a prenuptial agreement? If so, get in touch with an experienced family law attorney right away. The attorneys at Adams Family Law will fight tirelessly to protect your future and your finances. To schedule a consultation, call 513-929-9333 or email Steven@adamsfamilylaw.com.